"I didn’t talk to my parents, it was too expensive to make international calls. We didn’t have internet back then of course. I would send postcards and my father would write me back."
"The main obstacle to assimilation is people’s attitudes. If they are hostile towards you, then you feel like an outsider. I was shielded because my new husband’s friends, the people I met volunteering at the hospital, and strangers everywhere were nice to me. Thanks to this, I was able to make myself part of the American scene."
"They played 'Empire State of Mind' by Alicia Keys and Jay-Z on the radio. It felt surreal in a way, but in another way it made me more confident in my choice."
"For sure I didn’t go to the other side of the ocean to step back and wait for help. I wanted to get things done on my own, without the help of anybody else."
"She says that because of their words and actions, she was sometimes made to feel less important and felt like she was not allowed to cross certain boundaries."
"I remember looking around and thinking to myself, 'Oh my god there are so many foreigners here!' because there were so many white people. But then I realized that I was the foreigner."
"I had the best time of my life, frankly speaking. I went around to museums, I went on dates, I went alone around places and checked things out and I was doing this in the middle of the night, the middle of day, it didn’t matter."
"They would get up from wherever they were in the middle of the night and step on us. They would get mad because we were there and they’d ask if we wanted to fight them even though we'd been sleeping."
"Then age 10 I was took by force by army to go to war so I'm a child war soldier. I consider myself number one lucky guy because I see so many kids died in the war and the refugee’s camps."
"If I could share any piece of learning that I had from my family’s experience it would be the significance of finding connection, regardless of what community or ethnic group you find connection in, finding connection with other immigrant people."
"It wasn't fun. It wasn't fun simply because when we arrived in America, my brother got sick and we were thrown in this cheap motel full of roaches in New York with prostitutes all over."
"I really like here. I like America, but I still miss China because my family is over there, like my parents, siblings, my friends... they are all in China so I miss China too."
"So when I hear people complaining about undocumented aliens, I ask them, what does that look like? And when I confess to them, they are completely shocked because that’s not what they are talking about."
"I had grown up in Johannesburg in South Africa and in 1985, the country was at the height of the apartheid struggle... the South Africa I grew up in was essentially white colonial South Africa."
"But it was just hard because you don’t have anyone else who’s really -- worried, like genuinely worried about you, you know? It’s just… people don’t really ask you if you’re okay."
"No voices of dear ones, no crows cawing, no stunning greens of coconut trees and bushes and no pleasing smell of jasmine flowers. The reality hit me; I am far away from home."
"I was amazed by all the people. I’ve never seen people of color other than my own race. You know what I mean, so it was just shocking when I see this, Asians, Whites, whatever… I was stunned."
"It’s just a different feeling to be a tourist and knowing that you are going for a few days or a few weeks and then versus actually moving to the country with the expectation of being there for a couple of years at least."
"And the parks, and the freedom and security you guys have, and that feeling that you can be out late without having to go home with the fear that like, oh no it’s late, you know, people come out, you know."
"I remember being put in the ESL class even though we told them [the school administrators] that we were fluent in English since we were four years old."
"You know, times will be challenging and difficult, but you just have to believe that you can do it and you can get through it, and it’s worth it in the end."
"I thought, you know, it was nice and clean, and beautiful, and everything was like glamorous, but it’s not like that. That’s the impression everybody gives here."
"So what was very good about the United States is that I could find Brazilian neighborhoods where I could get Brazilian food, I could go to good restaurants, I could go to Brazilian fast foods too, to Brazilian church and meet a lot of Brazilian people."
"They used to talk to me and so I used to catch it and write it down. I used to write it down how it sounds, that word. So that's the way I learned how to speak English."
"My dad always encouraged us to not work like he did. He was a laborer. So he encouraged us to be educated. But obviously he didn’t know how to go about the process."
"So, it was a big week that January ’69. I was part of that. ’69. And then the moon landing came. We were just watching in a 19-inch black and white TV. That’s all we had."
"Seven years later I migrated to the US by myself, promising never to experience the geopolitical and economic hardships that my parents had to live through."
"And, for the whole drive, I was just thinking about my family, thinking about my friends back home because it's so different between here and back home."
"But when you come here, very few folks can tell you that Nairobi has 4.4 million people, and they have skyscrapers, and working class jobs, and private schools. We’re not just all a village out there."
"I just wanted to see my dad. We are really close and it was the first time being without him for so long. He moved in September. My mom, sister, and I joined in December. I was only a kid; I just wanted my dad."
"As a student of literature and a lover of books I was familiar with New York stories and I had goosebumps when I saw the tall buildings of my favorite city."
"I remember just going to the riverside and walking to a giant Toys R Us…. But I didn't get any toys. I spent that month in Brooklyn just reading the Chinese fairy tale books I bought from China."
"I would actually sit down and compose what I wanted to tell them, paragraph by paragraph, or maybe point by point, and then make a 30-minute tape and mail the tape to them."
"It was a very easy decision to make because I knew that they had one thing here that we didn’t, which was freedom. And I wanted that really, really bad."
"It struck me as something absolutely surreal. Not possible even to imagine. I counted 83 beers… because it was so unnatural. We were drinking in Moscow just one brand of beer!"
"I used to be really in love with all the John Wayne movies, so I thought I'm coming to see horses. That was a little bit of a surprise. There were no cowboys. Not in New York."
"For me, my strength was that for two years I was in the military in Iran. That helped me a lot. It made my skin thicker because, say, worst-case scenario, I can sleep on the street."
"Five days after my arrival, the tragedy of 9/11 occurred. Since I was still so young, I wondered if such chaos and destruction…happened frequently in the US."
"So it was a really really difficult transition to make, because when I saw my parents at the airport, I will never forget it, I didn't know who they were."
"As a teenager I think one of the most important things in the universe is the friends that you have and family may not seem as important at that point."
"You never think that people with those kinds of qualifications can be refugees. But, when the war broke down, it could reach anybody. Refugees can be anybody."
"When I first met my parents I was really happy and excited. I didn’t really know how to say anything to them, so I just hugged them at the orphanage."
"On the August 25, 1949 morning, as the American coastline appeared on the horizon, I and hundreds of others went up on the deck to survey the first glimpse of America."
"My expectations were actually that America is pretty small compared to say, Russia. So everything would be smaller size and like not so many open spaces."
"The idea was you come here, you stay here for four years, or five years, whatever, and then go back, you know, to your country, and to live there, serve, whatever."
"Everything was just so odd, all the teachers and the principals, ‘welcome to the new school, we are so happy you are here,’ and I was like why do you care so much, you are all so weird."
"On the night of 27th August 1968 my father's friend dropped me at Bombay airport and I took the Air India flight to London via Beirut, Frankfurt, Paris and I had to change the plane for the next part of the journey to the USA."
"I remember that I wore a tie-and-dye cotton Kurti with jeans pants. I also remember groggily overhearing a couple looking at me and using the word "Gypsy" several times."
"When the plane flew above Labrador the skipper again came and pleasantly advised me to survive on fish if the plane crashed on the snow covered ground."
"But what I can tell you is my parents actually moved back to India when I was 10 because my dad said "I was just here to study. I'm moving back. Degrees will help my country." He was very patriotic, so we all moved back."
"I kind of understood the term ‘thundering silence’ for the first time. ‘Cause, where I grew up, I used to hear rickshaws ting-tinging outside and prostitutes fighting and things, you know? And now, nothing. Just quiet!"
"We had not much money, we had only eight bucks in our pocket, we didn't have a scholarship, but we never thought about "hey, what happens if things don't work out?""
"So I stayed at the hotel all night without eating anything, completely tired and hungry, because of the fact that I didn't know where I was and they had told me not to go out at night."
"In my first semester, I finished the money given to me for the year. I was not extravagant. So I worked in a Chinese restaurant two nights a week to make pocket money for extras such as personal items and clothing/shoes."
"There happened to be one other Pakistani student who was the closest in culture at that time to me and we made a bond that I'll never forget, even though we came from countries where traditionally they were rivals."
"In the fresh optimism of our arrival, it seemed like the landscape was reaching out to welcome us to America, full of opportunities to follow our dreams."
"Landing in New York was something totally different – the huge skyscrapers, the ‘hustle and bustle,’ the speed of life was like a totally different world opening up to us when compared to London or pre-partition India."
"Unfortunately, the shuttle bus company said that all those items were gone, they couldn’t find it, so it was a pretty miserable experience there to start off with."
"And when we exited the airport, I looked all around and saw rows upon rows of cars! I couldn't figure out where were all the people - there wasn't a soul in sight!"
"I had was thinking about the future that what can I do? And I was very happy because I knew that I will find new friends with different ideas and I will see new places."
"I saw in our car a new thing, a GPS. The GPS was announcing where and when to turn right or left and how far away our home was. It wasn't necessary to ask any person."
"It was not a very happy day for me, because I had wanted to remain in the UK and attend Guy’s Hospital Medical School, which was a place I had wanted to go to ever since I was ten – I wanted to be a doctor like my dad."
"My entire childhood was spent in one of the seven UN camps for Bhutanese refugees. We came here because we are Bhutanese Nepalis and the Nepali government didn’t give us citizenship, so we came to the U.S.A. to work, get an education and have citizenship for the first time in our lives."
"It reminded me of a scene from some Hollywood movie where a newcomer in New York is gaping at advertisements covering the whole length of a building."
